Wednesday, May 26, 2010

From I Will to I Do Part 3: A Love Letter to Carot Cake


Dear Carot Cake,


Though it has only been a couple of weeks though it feels like years since I've seen you. I miss you so much. I long for your sweet cream cheese icing and you pecan inclusions. Your moist brown goodness is like no other. No, I am not sneaking around on you with yellow cake. I told yellow cake I needed space a while ago. It is you that I could not let go of. I know its hard for us to be apart right now but we both know that love requires sacrifice and I will fit into that wedding dress. So just hold on Carot Cake and in a little more than 3 months, we can be together forever.
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Monday, May 24, 2010

His Middle Name is Hussein. It's Okay.

In addition to the "the president isn't a natural born citizen" claim that still persists despite presented evidence, I am sick and tired of this Hussein-is-his-name issue. Barack Obama's middle name is Hussein. He's okay with it. I'm okay with it. His father did not consult the American public when he decided to name his child. It is a name. It should not be considered derogatory or made to seem as such. So to hear that Democrats on the Texas School Board argued against the motion of a Republican member to add Obama's middle name to their textbooks (and their history and social studies textbook issue is a shame) because they believe the Republicans intend it to be derogatory is a sad situation on the part of the Democrats which include African-American members. Barack Hussein Obama should be referred to the way he took his oath of office. Barack Hussein Obama.


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Thursday, May 20, 2010

Distant Relatives: A Necessary Creative Initiative

Ever the Pan-Africanist, I am very excited about the new Nas and Damien Marley album Distant Relatives which hit the stores on Tuesday. With songs like Africa Must Stand Up and Strong Will Continue and K'naan (who I love! ) as a featured artist, they make emphasis that all Blacks, on the continent and the throughout the Diaspora are connected. Unity is the means to progress. And if there is anything I stress in my African-American Studies course it is Pan-Africanism. All three tend to have politically motivated lyrics in their projects so I am eager to hear this album. In fact, I'm going to pick it up on my lunch break.
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Wednesday, May 12, 2010

But He Doesn't Look That Much Darker to Me...

There is talk around the Internet (and USA Today) the recently bleached Sammy Sosa is "back to basic Black". Apparently he has been seen partying at a Miami nightclub and he no longer looks like a supersized Marc Anthony. Um, looking at this TMZ, he looks nothing like he used to. There hasn't been much of a change to me. This is a seasonal change that the average Black person experiences from the fall/winter when you spend time in doors to the summer when you are catching a lot of sun. I already have to use a different make-up foundation here in sunny FLA and it is just the month of May.
Of course, his recent lighter appearance sheds light on the skin color complex a number of Diaspora Black suffer from. Even on the Continent there are plenty of people who have damaged their skin using skin-whiteners because they believe----they have been led to believe---that lighter skin is better. This is more than an issue of seeing Beyonce and Alicia Keys in the media everyday and therefore you perceive lighter skin as the standard of beauty. No. This is a systematic issue of class and societal value. No matter how successful Sammy Sosa had become he was still a Black man, from a place where being "Black" is ill received. Worthless. Though the psychological effects are similar, I would argue on that on the population level it may not be as severe. American Blacks are more preoccupied with hair-texture than skin complexion. Having good hair is as good as if not better than having light skin. And we sacrifice for it. That same sacrifice can be seen in many Blacks in many parts of the Diaspora. So much so that many risk their lives to change that very feature of themselves.


photo via TMZ
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Monday, May 10, 2010

Lena Horne passes at the age of 92

Singer/actress pioneer Lena Horne passed away yesterday, on Mothers' Day at the age of 92. Of the Black female pioneers in the film and music industry she (along with Miriam Anderson) is one that I especially held close to my heart.
She was not just a Black history bite of information to me. She was on the Cosby Show, Sesame Street, the Muppet Show, the Wiz. She was around to inspire me as a little girl growing up in the 80's. Most influential for me was her duet with Kermit the Frog singing "It's Not Easy Being Green" which is one of my all-time favorites. Children can recognize skin-color and ethnicity differences at a very young age. It is so amazing to break the issue down for a child, to reach their insecurities and offer reassurance in a song.
So in my adult mind I know that at 92 she has lived a full life. She was just as beautiful in her late years as she was in her youth. She made her mark as a jazz singer. I can remember playing her "Stormy Weather" on number of Saturday nights that I have spent alone. But the child in me is mourning Glenda the Good Witch. I am mourning the person who told me it was OK to be me in a way I could understand even as she was coming to grips with that herself.
My identity is very clear to me now, I am a black
woman, I’m not alone, I’m free. I say I’m free because I no longer have to be a credit, I don’t have to be a symbol to anybody; I don’t have to be a first to anybody. I don’t have to be an imitation of a white woman that Hollywood sort of hoped I’d become. I’m me, and I’m like nobody else.

Her presence will be missed. May she rest in peace.

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Friday, May 07, 2010

Forever Young


I had my braces removed a few days ago and I feel as though I have aged about 5 years. Admittedly, the braces made me look as if I was in my very early 20's so I probably just look my age now. My age is still relatively young, though lately I have been concerned with my fleeting youth. I notice that things don't look the way that they used do, they don't move the way they used to. I cannot party the way I did in college and pull all-nighters 4 nights out of the week to get work done. I am no longer superwoman.

The models in fashion ads seem to be getting younger. I can't relate to some of the current music. I cannot shave the side of my head because well, I have a real-ass job! I dwell on the fact that Biggie Smalls was only 26 when he was killed. He died when I was well into my teens. He seemed much older then, now I realize that he was just a baby.

My colleagues and I complain about co-workers and their intimidation. A young, well-educated, and talented employee is someone everyone fears will take their job. A few years ago I would be angry and think it was unfair but I have noticed my growing sympathy towards our co-workers' situation.

Old men have no shame about making eyes or saying inappropriate comments to me now. I am just old enough now that they don't think of me as their daughter. In fact I am at the age in which I may catch the eye of older, younger and those who are relatively the same age as me. One day this will all change. It's sad that this is what I think of. Sad but true.

I want to be forever young. I guess inside I always assumed I would be.
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Monday, May 03, 2010

From "I Will" to "I Do" Part 2- Procrastination and Weight Loss



It is a little more than 4 months until my wedding and there are a slew of things that I have not done yet. I will not say what they are because I am a bit embarrassed. But mainly they're the do-it-yourself projects that I---the frugal bride now wish I had simply paid someone to do.


I have however, chosen and ordered my wedding dress. It has been at the bridal salon for two months. I have not seen it or tried it on. Nope. I gotta lose weight. Sure I arguably don't quite NEED to lose weight. I am starting to resent people who question me about this"but why?" "come on, you can have a little bit of cake." Is there a bride that was not worried about her weight before her wedding? And why do people try to sabotage your efforts by being ever so persistent with that piece of cake!! I should lose weight because I was a bit ambitious with my gown sizing. I cannot face the disappointment of getting into the gown and it not ziping up. I can't face it.
Besides you can let the gown out but you can't take the gut in. Losing weight is a more efficient solution.
But as I drag my feet, that is one extra thing on the list of many that needs to get done.

And I'll get to it, I will. As soon as I finish this cheesecake. And after this weekend because it's my sister's birthday, certainly there will be birthday cake.
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